Monday, October 30, 2006

t-minus 4 days and counting

It's the countdown to my 29th birthday. (It's Friday.)
Why a countdown? Well, I figure since this will be my last birthday, I should make it special. Ok. Technically, it will not be my last birthday (dear lord, I hope not.), but it will be the last time the number increases. Basically, I will never be any age other than 29. Nope. Ask me in five years and I will still be 29.

On Saturday night, we started off the countdown with a bang! We went to our favorite restaurant, Los Dos Molinos. We had just started eating and Chris said something to me like, did you see that tequila they have behind the counter? He said that it was really expensive, something like $20 per shot. I said that I wanted to get a shot. I told him that he could have a sip off the top and I would drink the rest. We asked the waiter and he said the name of it, but we cannot remember. He said say that it was the best tequila in Mexico. Well hell, why not? If it's the best tequila in Mexico... It was $15 a shot. The restaurant owner poured the shot (and it was in glass bigger than your average shot glass) and looked over at me and gave me a thumbs up. The waiter brought it over and I was about to drink it, but the owner was watching me and making faces. She was making me laugh so hard that I couldn't drink it. I then gave Chris a sip. The owner was looking away by then and I took a big drink. It was still only about half the glass. It was THE BEST tequila that I have ever had. Mind you, I have not had lots of different kinds of tequila. I have had a few, but not many. So, not only is the best tequila in Mexico, but it was the best tequila I have ever had. Chris then took another sip and then I finished off the glass. I will say that what I ended up drinking was about one and a half shots. See, the thing is... I don't really drink. I rarely ever do. We usually get a pitcher of Sangria when we go to Los Dos, but it doesn't really count as drinking. But I decided that since I could drink, I might as well. Before we drank it, Chris suggested that we wait to get it until we were finished eating. I told him that I didn't want to wait, because I might change my mind. It was fun. When we were paying and leaving, the owner said that she finished off the bottle for me. So, I guess it was larger than the average shot they serve of it. She said that it was either me or her who would have to finish the bottle, so she gave it to me. I love that place. And the food is flippin awesome! If you ever come to Phoenix and can handle super hot mexican food, I highly recommend Los Dos Molinos. :)

I actually like this song

My Love by Justin Timberlake featuring (my man) T.I.


If you don't know why T.I. is my man, I can't really share. I'm not supposed to. It involves theft and a phone call. That's all I can say. I don't really like him-like him, but he's my favorite rapper. I am cracking myself up with my own inside joke. Sorry I can't share more. Anyhoo... I actually like the new single. I was surprised that I do, because I didn't like SexyBack at all. He also beat my (fo' real) man on the billboard chart the week both of their albums debuted. So, I was bitter about that. I think I like this song, because I like to imagine that he wrote it about Cameron. If he did, it's really nice. I would like a song about me.

Saturday, October 28, 2006

Congrats!




St. Louis is my husband's hometown! Last time the Cardinals won, he lived there and was 4 years old.

Thursday, October 26, 2006

song in my head

edited to add: Hear it here

Do you ever get the feeling that we started in the middle
Or have you ever had the sense that we've been lying just a little
I mean come on
It's not like we've known ourselves that long

And I can't say I really blame you for being bored with the beginning
Always staring at the score to figure out who's barely winning
But don't you know
There is a reason strong move slow

And I'm okay
If you're okay with wasting time
But when you trace
You always see the bottom line

We are tracing
I hope you know
We are tracing

And if you want to know the moment I knew that I was still alone
I found I'd never learned your number I only stored it in my phone
You'd think by now
I'd know the shape of calling home

And I'm okay
If you're okay with wasting time
But when you trace
You always see the bottom line

We are tracing
I hope you know
We are tracing
We're both alone
We are tracing
We are tracing

Did you ever get the feeling that we started in the middle
Or have you ever have the sense that we were lying just a little
I mean come on
It's not like we knew ourselves that long

Wednesday, October 25, 2006

the big tears that just roll out of your eyes

This is me, now.

I am scared. I have done what I always do to deal with things I can't deal with. Push them down, deep where they stew and creep back up just when I thought I was done. I don't think I cried enough. But who knows how much is too much. Physically, I feel fine. I almost wish I didn't. I know that sounds strange. But at least I would have the physical pain that would accompany the emotional pain. Together, it makes more sense. Why am I still all messed up in the head, when I physically am fine. So, I pushed it all down. I tell myself that I am fine. Convince myself. But if I tell you that I am fine, don't believe me. I don't know what I'm doing. I am trying to get back to life. Back to doing the things that bring me joy. Hence all the John Mayer and other music posting that I have done lately. And the strangest thing is, I am really, honestly, ok with the new baby Scarlett. Maybe it's because they are far away. If they were here and I actually got to see her and be a part of their lives, I couldn't do it. But I am so genuinely happy for the Logans that I have no problem looking at her pictures. Ok, that's not totally true. The being happy for them part is true, but the part about not having a problem looking at the pictures is a lie. It is difficult. I keep thinking how wonderful it would have been for our kids to be only 7 or so months apart. See, Troy (the new dad) is Chris's great friend. They went to high school and college together. They are so similar that is scary. Shanna (the new mom) and I always said that they share a brain. They are two halves of one whole. I hate that we can't live closer to them. I hate that Chris is missing his other half. But I thought that it was almost fate that we were going to have children so close in age. Like it was meant to be that way. That maybe if we had a boy, he would marry Scarlett. I know, it's crazy stuff. So, looking at her pictures is difficult, because I grieve for what might have been.

I found this from a leaflet somewhere:
After a miscarriage, you grieve for a person you never knew, and for a relationship that ended before it really began. You grieve not for a person who has lived and died but for an unlived life. You grieve for the loss of your future as the parent of the baby who has died. You are sad not just because of what you have lost but because of what will never be.
Grieving after an early miscarriage can also be difficult because the strength of your feelings may seem out of proportion to what has happened to you physically. You are grieving for the loss of your baby, yet at the time of your loss, your baby may have only just begun to grow.


That about sums it up.

I went for my follow-up visit today. Since all my physical symptoms are gone, they are confident that my body took care of it all on its own. That's really a good thing and I know that. I didn't need surgery or get any infections. It took some time, but I trusted my body and it took care of itself. I had some blood work done today to check my hCG (human chorionic gonadotropin) level. I had that done last week too. hCG is the hormone your body produces when you are pregnant. As long as my level is where it should be, then I will be "released." What I assume that means is that I will be all done, medically with the miscarriage. I will get the blood work results tomorrow. I know it will be ok, because... I just do.

Me, on the other hand - I'm not so sure of...

Tuesday, October 24, 2006

new pictures of baby Scarlett Aurora

the new mommy

game day

Notice she is wearing one Indianapolis Colts sock & one Washington Redskins sock. On Sunday, when the game (Redskins vs Colts) was starting, I said to Chris, "I bet I know where Troy is right now." And now Troy has someone to watch football with. He is a huge Redskins fan and they live in Indianapolis. I love it!

Monday, October 23, 2006

one more - then I'm done (for today)

I guess I never really thought this song would apply to me. But turns out, it does.

Amsterdam, Holland
October 17th 2006

it's a youtube kind of day

I found some clips from the show. A little shakey and crackley, but I was there. And the person who filmed this was not far from where we were sitting.

Belief
Good Love Is On The Way
Slow Dancing in a Burning Room - part 1
Slow Dancing in a Burning Room - part 2
Why Georgia
Gravity
No Such Thing - part 1
No Such Thing - part 2
Waiting On The World To Change
In Repair - part 1
In Repair - part 2

If you only watch one, please watch the clip of Belief. It was amazing!

I really love this song and have been meaning to post it for awhile now.

We'll do it all
Everything
On our own

We don't need
Anything
Or anyone

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

I don't quite know
How to say
How I feel

Those three words
Are said too much
They're not enough

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden that's bursting into life

Let's waste time
Chasing cars
Around our heads

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden that's bursting into life

All that I am
All that I ever was
Is here in your perfect eyes, They're all I can see

I don't know where
Confused about how as well
Just know that these things will never change for us at all

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?


The video:

I really needed this laugh!

This is totally the funniest thing I've seen in a really long time!
Weird Al still got it.

The best part is Donny Osmond! Who else is more white & nerdy then him?
Wanna hear the original? Check out Ridin' by Chamillionaire

Saturday, October 21, 2006

i didn't go

Tonight was my 10 year high school reunion. I had planned to go. I decided yesterday that I couldn't do it. Then today, I went back and forth a couple of times. I wanted to go. I just could not bring myself to do it. I knew what the night would entail. Everyone asking everyone else about their lives and families and all that. What could I have said? My life is non existant right now. I can't bring myself to get dressed. I didn't even comb my hair today. Why? There is no reason to. I laid on the couch and watched Prison Break and QVC all day. I know that this is not healthy. I know that I should try to get my life back. But you know what? I almost don't want to. It seems pointless.

thanks FX


There is a marathon on right now of all the first seven episodes of season 2. Awesome. And I thought there would be nothing on TV for me to watch today.

Friday, October 20, 2006

As difficult as it may be, I wanted to share some photos of our friend's new baby.
Scarlett Aurora
Born 10/16/2006 at 7:35 pm
Length: 20.75 inches
Weight: 10 lbs. 9.3 oz


and the proud daddy


We love them and wish them the best.

Tuesday, October 17, 2006

I don't know where to start...

I was not sure if I would be able to blog about this. I think I can. At least I will try.

I had a miscarriage. I was about 7 weeks along.
There. Said it. The words are out there. In the world.
My baby is gone.

My husband and I have been trying to conceive since February of 2005. We had just started going to the doctors and were in the very preliminary stages of starting to do something about possible infertility. But it happened on its own. I hadn't started taking any kind of drugs or any treatments. On September 28th, I found out I was pregnant. Two positive pregnancy tests and I was over a week late. Plus, I had all the symptoms. We were happy beyond belief. I decided not to tell too many people and not blog about it until after the end of the first trimester. Most people wait that long, because the risk of miscarriage greatly reduces at the start of the second trimester. But my family knew and a couple of our friends knew. I can't even begin to tell you all the thoughts that you have when you find out you're pregnant. It is beyond comprehension. And it was also such a relief. We had been trying for so long and were not even sure if it could happen. Then it did. Everything was falling into place. I got all the books. I even started buying maternity clothes that I knew I would not need for many months. But it is so fun. Spent hours online shopping and reading. Life was good. At first I was really nervous. Every move I made or feeling in my body freaked me out. But after that first week, I got comfortable with it. I was much more in tune with my body. I had started to eat better. I gave up soda and caffeine, cold turkey. We had even started to taking evening walks. I remember over the weekend saying to my mother that so far my pregnancy was almost text book, because all the symptoms that the books say you should have, I had. But I wasn't getting morning sickness and I was sooo relieved about that. On Saturday night, I had some cramping and spotting. I really tried to ignore it and hoped that it would go away. Early Sunday morning, around 3:15am, I woke up and knew something wasn't right. I could go in to the details, but its not really necessary. I called the on-call nurse at my doctors office and she told me not to go to the ER and just to call the office first thing Monday. I did and went in to see the doctor. That was yesterday. It was confirmed. I am still physically dealing with it. I am in a lot of pain, physically. And if the thoughts you have when you find out you are pregnant are incomprehensible... this is worse. I have wanted a baby my entire life. I know that losing my baby happened for a reason. I know that. All the rational thoughts are there. And maybe one day, I will be able to believe them. Right now, its so raw. The days seem so long. I am off work and won't be back until Monday and even then, I am not sure I can go back right now. There are no words. It's difficult because my family feels so helpless. My mom had planned a trip to see my sister and she left today. She told me, as late as this morning while she was at the airport waiting for her flight, that she would stay if I needed her. I do need her, but I also need for some people I love to have joy and happiness. Keeping her from her trip would not have changed things. I can still call her when I need her. And my sister has been nothing but kind too. They all want to do something. But there is nothing anyone can really do. I have to grieve alone. I am always so concerned about other people's feelings and I want others to be happy. So if others were around me, I would be more concerned about how they feel and not focus on myself.
I know this is really hard to read. Just imagine writing it. Living it. I am not writing this for sympathy. I just felt like maybe sharing this with the world will make it seem more real. I am trying to be strong, but also allowing the feelings to just happen. Allowing myself to just be.

flowers from my mom



btw: This photo was taken on my new camera. I love it!

Monday, October 16, 2006

in honor of the birthday...

I will finally post some stuff about the show.
Lets start with some photos:






Source:
azcentral.com
j-mayer.org
black & white photos from johnmayer.com


And now some newspaper reviews:
Tom Petty and surprise guest fire up Glendale
Tom Petty, John Mayer showcase best of classic, new rock

I wanted to write more and address the notes I made the night of the show. But I have no energy to do that. And really, does anyone other than me care?
So, here is about all I can muster (at least for right now.)


Tuesday, October 10, 2006

I'm glad...

I am not the only one who likes What About Brian. Many people wonder why it wasn't cancelled, but I am glad that it wasn't. Last season, there was only 5 episodes. I really hope that it gets picked up for a full season this year. It's not the best show - far from it. But I really like it and really love Amanda Detmer.

And now for some random feelings on new shows this season...

I am still hanging on to Studio 60, but I am not sure how much longer. I haven't watched last night's episode yet, but I heard it was good.

I am also still hanging on to 6 Degrees. I love the Campbell Scott and Hope Davis characters. Everyone else has potential though. Unfortunately, I don't know how long this one will last.

Heroes - love it. It has so much potential. I love the Hiro (the Japanese guy) character. But my only complaint is - do the cheerleaders wear their uniforms EVERYDAY and EVERYWHERE they go?

I have given up on Brothers & Sisters. Given up. Erased it from my DVR. I could not deal with Calista Flockhart any more. Loved Rachel Griffiths and Balthazer Getty, but Calista's face is so huge that she takes up the entire show. Also, it's boring.

My favorite of the new shows this season is Ugly Betty. It is flippin funny and entertaining. Love it!

Monday, October 09, 2006

one of the reasons...

I have been feeling bad lately is because of all my mosquito bites. It has finally cooled down (and by cool down, I mean in the 90's) and we have opened up the house and turned off the AC. This is great and saves a buttload of money. But our front and back yard for that matter, must be infested with mosquitos. And apparently mosquitos can get thru the screens. I have so many bites that I can't even count. I am gonna have to start using my bug wipes in the house. Yikes. Last night I didn't sleep much because I could not stop itching. I found that I could scrape a bite on my ankle on the cording of the mattress. I scraped it so hard that I broke the skin and it looks like a burst blister. It hurts real bad. I have 6 bites on my left foot alone. Great.

i'm not dead either

I am here. I am alive. I just have not been feeling well and taking it easy.
Apparently life goes on if you don't blog. Who knew?
Anyway. I will work on getting caught up and post my review of the show. soon. I promise.

Wednesday, October 04, 2006

who goes to a Tom Petty show and doesn't see Tom Petty?

Well, me.

We left after the opening act. You all know that I went to see John Mayer. Who is really surprised that we left? It was warm and uncomfortable in there. Since I have not been feeling all that great lately, I was not upset in the slightest about leaving after John. I mean, can Tom Petty even compare? Some may disagree and that is your right. But whatever, you're wrong.

Anyway - here is the set list:
Belief
Vultures
Good Love is on the Way
Slow Dancing in a Burning Room
Why Georgia
Gravity
No Such Thing
Waiting on the World to Change
In Repair


It was amazing. Amazing. I got teary eyed up when he came on stage and the lights were still down. I bookended it by crying (like for real crying. crying so much that I had to take off my glasses and wipe my eyes because I couldn't see. crying) when he started to play In Repair. What an amazing song.

Word of the night - A-MAZ-ING.

I will write my full on review tomorrow. But let me make some notes to myself...
-dela dancing
-solo on Gravity
-great seats
-no camera
-random crowd
-Harry Morton
-JJ smoking

Ok, that will help. Until tomorrow... sweet dreams of Johnny...

preach on Jean-Paul Gaultier!

Gaultier uses 'size 20' model

JEAN-PAUL Gaultier caused a storm in Paris last night by sending a plus-size model down the catwalk.

As controversy raged on about the use of size 0 models, the French designer made his own statement about beauty.

The woman - a New Yorker named Velvet - shocked the skinny front row fashionistas in a daring black basque, stockings and suspenders.

Strutting her sizable stuff, the curvy catwalk queen was also used to model bridal wear in Gaultier's Spring/Summer 06 show last year.

So why did the designer flout fashion's first rule and ditch the beanpole babes?

"Jean-Paul wanted to show beauty can be universal," said a spokesperson for the fashion house.

"He thinks all women are beautiful and aims to challenge society's beauty stereotypes."

"That's why he featured Velvet and a much older model in the show."

3 hours and 16 minutes

but who's counting?

ME! I'm counting! I am so excited.

Tuesday, October 03, 2006

myspace layouts, myspace codes, glitter graphics

f***ng crickets

In our bedroom last night there was the loudest cricket I have ever heard in my entire life. It was somewhere behind my dresser, which just happens to be right next to my side of the bed. I tried to shake the dresser and make it stop, but every time the light went off, away it went. I couldn't take it. I went out and slept on the couch. But you know what? I could still hear it! Chris said that he turned my nightstand light on and slept like that until around 3am. Because as long as the light was on, it was not making noise. At 3am, he came and got me from the couch and I went back to the bed. Apparently the cricket had moved or just decided it wasn't gonna wait around for the light to go off. It was no longer chirping. But it made for a real rough night.

when will I see John Mayer?

Sunday, October 01, 2006

"Grey's" hires McSteamy fulltime

This really makes me happy. He is so much drama. And I love drama on my favorite show.

And if you watch the show, remember to check out the writer's blog. They usually have a new post on Friday's about the previous days episode.